If you’re having sleepless nights over your plus-ones, you’re not alone. We’ve come up with solutions to the top table gripes, money nightmares and bridesmaid battles, so you can get back to worrying about colour schemes and cake sampling.
You don’t have to invite people who asked you to their wedding
First of all, you need to remember that this is your day and no one else’s. In an ideal world, everyone would be kept happy but it’s a wedding after all. If you’re worrying about whether to invite your old friend from university or your gym instructor whose wedding you reluctantly went to last summer, it’s a no-brainer.
Don’t be afraid to say no to children
They may look like butter wouldn’t melt in the photos but if numbers are tight and you’d prefer to give the slot to a friend who will tell you how amazing you look, rather than scream their way through your dad’s emotional speech, then don’t be afraid to put a ban on children.
You can organise your own hen night
We know that it’s tradition for your chief bridesmaid to do this job, but if the thought of a complete surprise terrifies you then you could take matters into your own hands. Do whatever suits you.
It’s okay if your bridesmaid has a bump
You’re thrilled that your best friend has announced her pregnancy but part of you goes into panic mode. This doesn’t have to be the case, your bridesmaid will still be able to play her part in your wedding just the same!
Do without the first dance
For some, the idea of romantically moving around the dance floor is what nightmares are made of. If that sounds like you then make things easy and don’t succumb to peer pressure, just don’t do a first dance. Your day is meant to be enjoyable not full of anxiety.
Your parents can still afford to pay the bills
Gone are the days when your parents were expected to foot the bill of your entire wedding. Of course, if they want to then who are we to argue! But now lots of couples choose to fund their day themselves or with smaller contributions from each set of parents.
Don’t stress over the top table
Family life can be complicated. Divorced parents and nightmare mother-in-laws can make the top table plans not run so smoothly. If that’s the case then there’s no rule to say that you have to have one. A good idea we’ve seen recently is for the bride and groom to have their own table so no one gets into a fight about who sits next to you both. Problem averted!